"Sorry man, I was really busy to come and meet you when you were sick."
"Sorry for being mean to you. I was in a bad mood."
"Sorry for lying to you. I won't do it again."
Have you ever heard this before? Have you ever done this to somebody before? Yes you have and in fact, we all have. Nobody is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. We all apologise but how many of our apologies are true. Take two friends. One of them puts the other down at every social gathering in front of a lot of people. He always apologises privately to him but the behaviour continues and he keeps insulting him. Are his apologies true? Is he not considerate of his friend's feelings?
Take a mother and her son. The mother tells the son to clean his room while she is out to buy some house wares. When she comes back, the room is as dirty as ever. The son apologises with a simple 'sorry'. The mother forgives him and the next day tells him clean his room when she goes out to meet some friends. When she comes back the room is again, as dirty as ever. The son says 'sorry'. The mother forgives him. This keeps happening and the son keeps saying 'sorry' and the mother keeps forgiving him. Are the son's apologies real? Does he mean it? No, but as a mother, she always forgives him because she is his mother and mothers can never stay angry at their children.
However, not everyone is your mother. You only have that on person who will always forgive you no matter what.
If you were to buy something your friend asked you on repeated reminders and you forgot, she or he would never forgive you.
'Sorry' is and empty word with no meaning. To elaborate on the title, if I kill a man and tell his dead body sorry for killing him, even if it was a mistake, there is no way that he can ever come back to life. Once you commit something, you can't change it.
99% of the times when somebody says sorry, he or she never means it. They just use it as an excuse to keep the person off their backs. How many times has somebody hurt you and said sorry but 'never learnt from their mistake' and hurt you again?
Don't think that saying sorry will justify your actions because it won't. There is a reason why teachers don't accept 'sorry' anymore because they know how empty the word is. Students yet talk, they yet shout, they yet eat in class and cover it up by 'sorry'.
'Sorry' is responsible for a lot of friendships to dissolve when the person does something bad and just says sorry. Nobody ever believes it because they know that you will keep doing it again and again.
Take a mother and her son. The mother tells the son to clean his room while she is out to buy some house wares. When she comes back, the room is as dirty as ever. The son apologises with a simple 'sorry'. The mother forgives him and the next day tells him clean his room when she goes out to meet some friends. When she comes back the room is again, as dirty as ever. The son says 'sorry'. The mother forgives him. This keeps happening and the son keeps saying 'sorry' and the mother keeps forgiving him. Are the son's apologies real? Does he mean it? No, but as a mother, she always forgives him because she is his mother and mothers can never stay angry at their children.
However, not everyone is your mother. You only have that on person who will always forgive you no matter what.
If you were to buy something your friend asked you on repeated reminders and you forgot, she or he would never forgive you.
'Sorry' is and empty word with no meaning. To elaborate on the title, if I kill a man and tell his dead body sorry for killing him, even if it was a mistake, there is no way that he can ever come back to life. Once you commit something, you can't change it.
99% of the times when somebody says sorry, he or she never means it. They just use it as an excuse to keep the person off their backs. How many times has somebody hurt you and said sorry but 'never learnt from their mistake' and hurt you again?
Don't think that saying sorry will justify your actions because it won't. There is a reason why teachers don't accept 'sorry' anymore because they know how empty the word is. Students yet talk, they yet shout, they yet eat in class and cover it up by 'sorry'.
'Sorry' is responsible for a lot of friendships to dissolve when the person does something bad and just says sorry. Nobody ever believes it because they know that you will keep doing it again and again.
"Sorry" "No, you can't be because you knew the consequences of your actions and you yet put yourself in that predicament."
My advice to you is stop saying 'sorry'. Instead, when you make a mistake, make up for it. Try your best to change your actions and if you can't do that then do not do the action in the first place. Your friend, relative or whoever will understand that you dont want to risk anything. before doing something, or before saying 'sorry' especially put yourself into that person's shoes. Think of the problem from their point of view. Most of all, actually repent on what you did to cause the problem. Don't depend on apologies to save you because they won't. Insulting, lying, teasing or talking behind the back are one of the main reasons to say 'sorry' and they are the main reasons as to why friendships break. Words are like bullets. Once shot they can't come back. You have already used it.
My advice to you is stop saying 'sorry'. Instead, when you make a mistake, make up for it. Try your best to change your actions and if you can't do that then do not do the action in the first place. Your friend, relative or whoever will understand that you dont want to risk anything. before doing something, or before saying 'sorry' especially put yourself into that person's shoes. Think of the problem from their point of view. Most of all, actually repent on what you did to cause the problem. Don't depend on apologies to save you because they won't. Insulting, lying, teasing or talking behind the back are one of the main reasons to say 'sorry' and they are the main reasons as to why friendships break. Words are like bullets. Once shot they can't come back. You have already used it.
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